Close Menu
BmoreNews.com
  • Home
  • News
  • Politics
  • Business
  • Editorial/Op-Ed
  • The Glover Report
  • Black Wall Street
  • Video
Trending
Op/Ed: Redefining School Board Leadership: Equity, Accountability, and Community

Op/Ed: Redefining School Board Leadership: Equity, Accountability, and Community

Black Wall Street ATL 2025

Black Wall Street ATL 2025

Governor Moore Announces  Million in Grant Awards and a New Philanthropic Fund to Support Vacancy Reduction in Baltimore City

Governor Moore Announces $50 Million in Grant Awards and a New Philanthropic Fund to Support Vacancy Reduction in Baltimore City

Facebook X (Twitter) Instagram
  • About
  • Advertise
  • Contact
Facebook X (Twitter) YouTube
BmoreNews.com
  • Home
  • News
  • Politics
  • Business
  • Editorial/Op-Ed
  • The Glover Report
  • Black Wall Street
  • Video
Newsletter
BmoreNews.com
  • News
  • Politics
  • Business
  • Editorial/Op-Ed
  • The Glover Report
  • Black Wall Street
  • Video
Home » Op-Ed: Its Time!!!! (Black Women Who Hurt Black Women)
Editorial/Op-Ed

Op-Ed: Its Time!!!! (Black Women Who Hurt Black Women)

Staff ReporterBy Staff ReporterMay 17, 2024717 ViewsNo Comments3 Mins Read
Share Facebook Twitter Pinterest Telegram LinkedIn Tumblr Email Copy Link
Follow Us
Google News Flipboard
Op-Ed: Its Time!!!! (Black Women Who Hurt Black Women)
Diane Bell-McKoy

(BALTIMORE – May 17, 2024) – For Black women, it’s time. It’s time we stood up and acknowledged the truth that happens to us at work, in our business and in our daily lives. It is not a pleasant truth but often truth isn’t pleasant especially to say it out loud when we have only whispered about it.

Yet saying & facing the truth is critical for our own mental health & our liberation along with the liberation of those who fall into this category. We need not call them names. We need not express “hate” about them or to them. But we do need to acknowledge the truth about them for our own well being & the well being of other Black women.

The truth we must acknowledge is the toxic behavior of “some” Black women to other Black women. The toxic behavior that includes name-calling. Or the toxic behavior that includes supporting “others” while putting down women who are the mirror image of themselves. The toxic behavior that includes jealousy and sometimes malicious intent – malicious intent that can show up in your “evaluation” or malicious intent which can show up in the whispers about you to others.

We need to acknowledge & call out this behavior. However, I believe we need to call it out, stay away from it/not allow this trauma into our souls but also understand how & if we can help her/them who practice this behavior.
Many years ago I read the “Pedagogy of the Oppressed”. Years after I had read the book, I had the opportunity of a lifetime to sit in a room on the African continent with Black women from across the globe talk about the Pedagogy of the Oppressed and how it played out in their countries.

I watched it play out in front of me in several different roles I have had in my career.

My sister describes her experience in entering an organization as a leadership/management trainer (Training By Design} where the leadership is a Black woman & the environment is full of toxicity. Sometimes, Black women in the organization will pull her aside to describe the bias & feelings of repeated attacks from the woman in leadership who looks just like them.

Sometimes these Black women in leadership have risen to this role by succumbing to the behavior of their superiors who are often white men. To maintain their “power” and ignore their fears – they take on the behavior of their “oppressors”. They may be filled with their own “self-loathing” and fearful of being exposed as a fraud (imposter syndrome).

Some of these Black women became adults with trauma and pain leftover from childhood and still unaddressed. Then their living in America which is filled with the systemic and afterbirth of our country’s “original sin” – slavery.
Why do some Black women succumb to this self-loathing that manifests their negative behavior toward any mirror image of themselves?

Whatever the reason – we need to call it out and identify solutions to embrace her without hurting ourselves. To talk about it, out loud and not let it destroy her and us.

Op-Ed: Its Time!!!! (Black Women Who Hurt Black Women)
Share. Facebook Twitter Pinterest LinkedIn Tumblr Email Copy Link
Previous ArticleNext Phaze Cafe, 112 E. Lexington St., BALTIMORE: Fri., May 17, 2024
Next Article New Life Recovery: Special Guest Maurice Good

Keep Reading

Op/Ed: Redefining School Board Leadership: Equity, Accountability, and Community
July 9, 2025

Op/Ed: Redefining School Board Leadership: Equity, Accountability, and Community

By Ashley Esposito
This award is not mine alone.
July 2, 2025

This award is not mine alone.

By Devin Jackson
EDITORIAL: In Defense of Sen. Cory McCray — And the Truth About Black Leadership in Baltimore
June 21, 2025

EDITORIAL: In Defense of Sen. Cory McCray — And the Truth About Black Leadership in Baltimore

By Staff Reporter
Corporate Maryland’s Best-Kept Secret: They’re Still Profiting From Slavery
May 28, 2025

Corporate Maryland’s Best-Kept Secret: They’re Still Profiting From Slavery

By Andy Pierre
Guest Editorial: You’re Not Welcomed Here: The Silent Eviction of a Generation
May 8, 2025

Guest Editorial: You’re Not Welcomed Here: The Silent Eviction of a Generation

By Dr. Beshon Trusty
Opinion: The Financial Reality of Black Organizations: A Call for Strategic Change
February 24, 2025

Opinion: The Financial Reality of Black Organizations: A Call for Strategic Change

By Tre
Add A Comment
Leave A Reply Cancel Reply

Latest News
Black Wall Street ATL 2025

Black Wall Street ATL 2025

Governor Moore Announces  Million in Grant Awards and a New Philanthropic Fund to Support Vacancy Reduction in Baltimore City

Governor Moore Announces $50 Million in Grant Awards and a New Philanthropic Fund to Support Vacancy Reduction in Baltimore City

NHHM To Honor Kid ‘n Play, Jungle Brothers, DJ Red Alert, Dana Dane, Kwamé, Sweet Tee and DJ Hollywood, Aug. 23

NHHM To Honor Kid ‘n Play, Jungle Brothers, DJ Red Alert, Dana Dane, Kwamé, Sweet Tee and DJ Hollywood, Aug. 23

Who’s Getting Sued This Week? Is Diddy FINISHED in Business After this Verdict? Let’s DISCUSS!!

Who’s Getting Sued This Week? Is Diddy FINISHED in Business After this Verdict? Let’s DISCUSS!!

Trending News
Building a New Baltimore with Doni Glover and David Bramble

Building a New Baltimore with Doni Glover and David Bramble

July 6, 2025
From Towson to TV: How Rondy Griffin is Shaping the Media Landscape

From Towson to TV: How Rondy Griffin is Shaping the Media Landscape

July 6, 2025
Black Wall Street ATL to Honor Black Excellence in Entertainment, Entrepreneurship, and Influence on July 11th

Black Wall Street ATL to Honor Black Excellence in Entertainment, Entrepreneurship, and Influence on July 11th

July 5, 2025

Subscribe to News

Get the latest Baltimore news and updates directly to your inbox.

Facebook X (Twitter) YouTube
2025 © BmoreNews.com. All Rights Reserved.
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms
  • Contact

Type above and press Enter to search. Press Esc to cancel.

Subscribe to Updates

Get the latest news and updates directly to your inbox.